Research shows that loyalty is the most important factor millennials value most whilst in an intimate relationship. For many, when hearing about the word loyalty, many think of staying true to your partner and not cheating on them. Simple. However, loyalty is rather something that has to do with not only physical closeness but quite some other factors…
#1 Loyalty in a physical sense
What most people first associate with loyalty. It starts with staying true to your partner by accepting and realizing to have made a commitment to being with someone. There should be no occasion, under any circumstance, where physical closeness to another person but your partner shall exist. Questioning your ability to stay loyal in a physical sense to your partner, during tempting situations, you’ve failed the first test already.
#2 Loyalty in an emotional sense
Loyalty is not only about staying true to your partner by seeking only their physical closeness but also not forming an emotional bond with someone else. If being emotionally intimate with someone else but your partner, then you’ve failed the second test.
Having an emotional bond with a best friend is common and normal. Even if they are the opposite sex. Many people have that. As long as those are not feelings that make you demand their intimacy with them, you’re good.
Don’t pursue a heart that you’re not ready to be loyal to!
#3 Hiding something from your partner
Cheating isn’t always kissing, touching, or flirting. If you have to delete text messages so your partner won’t see them, you’re already there!
We all have our very own innocent secrets we have never told our partner. And that’s okay, I’m not talking about those secrets. I’m talking about things your partner should know about! Things that could, under any circumstance, be a threat to your relationship. If you’re not sure if you should talk to your partner about something, do so anyway! You should treat and talk to your partner how you would like to be treated yourself. If you’re questioning if you should talk to your partner about something, ask yourself if you would like your partner to speak to you about that matter! It’s all about making your partner feel comfortable and always giving them a sense of safety and security. Always!
You should treat and talk to your partner how you would like to be treated yourself. If you’re questioning if you should talk to your partner about something, ask yourself if you would like your partner to speak to you about that matter! It’s all about making your partner feel comfortable and always giving them a sense of safety and security.
#4 Listening and being there for each other
Loyalty is a broad concept and so it also involves the idea of always being there for your partner and listening to their problems, feelings, doubts, and things that lie in their heart. You must make the greatest effort in being there for your partner and supporting them in times of difficulty and adversity.
#5 Staying true to yourself and knowing who you are
WATCH OUT! You may fail. Loyalty is also about knowing who you are. This is important as you cannot truly give your partner your authenticity if you don’t who you are yourself. The greater majority of people fail at this aspect, due to the lack of self-awareness in our society.
Time and patience must be deployed in order to give your partner your authenticity. Here is my opinion – perhaps before getting into a relationship, starting working on getting to know yourself. Start figuring yourself out so that you can truly say what in life makes you, you! This will always maximize your chances of staying with your partner as you will be able to communicate to your partner who you really are. 🙂
Take-home message. How did you do? Passing on all these factors is tough. Yet if you fail on more than two factors, perhaps start turning the ship around friend! Loyalty is indeed often underestimated, yet being aware of these factor should your relationship take better courses soon!