How is your life going? Are you facing an emotional crisis? Are you in a state where you can’t see any light at the end of the tunnel? Remember the saying “Nothing is as bad as it seems and nothing is as bad, but somewhere between reality falls”.
Break-ups, academic stress, work-related stress, losing a close one etc. We’ve taken the best life advice, we could find in some of the best-selling books to help you get through your time of struggle.
#1 Appreciate your status
Embracing our current struggle, and consciously being aware that every struggle makes a greater person, does half the work. Fully accepting our emotional status and being aware that this is only a temporary state is a skill that helps provide the foundation for dealing with adversity.
Research from studying the greatest people shows that the greater majority, have all gone through trauma. Sometimes a broken heart, long cries and, emotional breakdowns are necessary. Trauma helps reveal our true colors and allow us to know what really counts for us.
Every person has a profound need to have a place or someone where they feel safe, welcomed and accepted. This is where true embracement and admittance can occur. It may be through journaling, exchange in conversations or prayers. In psychology, this is referred to introspection. Thinking and writing about your thoughts at a given moment.
Introspection is a key skill used to heighten self-awareness. With self-awareness comes higher quality interpretation of our own emotions and a greater degree of rational beliefs. These can help us think about a problem at hand more rationally and manage our emotions in a more superior manner.
Don’t forget that you’re human. It’s okay to have a meltdown. Just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you’re headed.
#3 Rewiring your brain
Research shows that through releasing Brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF), a protein released during heavy exercise, our neural pathways are rewired. This helps change or adjust our thinking patterns when continuously done. This is especially during times of irrational thinking patterns. Due to the rewiring of neural pathways, such ways of thinking can be transformed into more rational ones.
In addition to this comes the release of endorphins. These are designed to mask physical pain, and therefore support us in operating outside of our comfort zone to take our life to a completely new level. Remember that self-improvement and growth are a profound human need!
#4 Hack into your love chemical
We’re social animals. Throughout our development since early ancestors, we’ve developed the secretion of oxytocin. Oxytocin or the ‘love chemical’ is secreted whilst being in contact with our friends or those whose presence we deeply appreciate. Oxytocin creates feelings of social bonds and mutual care. Meet up with friends, hang around your family. Go out and meet new people. Oxytocin can simply be evoked by hugs and things as easy as physical touch. Even if it is as simple as watching TV with a friend. Oxytocin gives us a feeling of connectedness and significance for others.
#5 Practice what you love
Research shows that people who regularly practice their passions or activities that have a sense of deeper meaning to them also enjoy greater psychological well-being. Philosophers like referring to such activities as those where one can ‘disappear’. Playing an instrument, drawing, writing, reading etc.
Such activities help shift our focus on what truly inspires us. These are the moments where true and profound change can occur. Changes to emotions and flourishment of fresh and empowering ideas.
Remember: It may be stormy now, but it can’t rain forever.
Take-home message. It lies in our responsibility to deal with adversity or moments of uncomfortable change. Choosing that such change will only make you a stronger person is the way forward, towards a brighter future. Not put your head up. Beatiful things are coming your way. 🙂