The baby-boomers aka the ‘flower-power’ generation, was subject to what is referred to a ‘workaholic’ population. Working a 9-5, buying a minivan, and going on holiday once a year, was the American dream.
Parents often didn’t have time, to discuss the problems with their children or engage in any sort of ’emotional talk’ resulting in a egocentric population.
UNTIL one day…
Baby-boomers decided to have… well… even more babies.
In fact, they didn’t only decide to have babies, but, since everyone in the baby-boomer age was so trimmed in their work, they decided that their kids needed self-esteem and would breed a generation that would produce the greatest intellectual results in history!
To do so, baby-boomer parents were greatly convinced they needed to guard and protect their ‘highly talented kids’ from all good and evil the world could bring. Protecting them from creepy teachers, ministers, evil playgrounds, bad grades, school bullies and from all criticism that could potentially harm their little snowflake.
Also known as helicopter parenting.
Helicopter parenting created an obsession that a child could NEVER be wrong. ‘My little Georgy is not an asshole! It’s those video games that make him so aggressive!’ or ‘My little Amy is not a bad student! It’s because her teacher doesn’t like her!’. As a result, parents began writing complaint letters to computer companies, school principles, PTO offices and so on…
In fact, today I read how parents worry about how their children are at greater risk of thrombosis and obesity through playing video games.
(I share this with you because all of this simply freaks me out)
When in reality, Georgy is just a dick, because of his parent’s inability to set clear boundaries and teach Georgy the difference between what is reality and what is invented fantasy horseshit. And that little Amy… well… perhaps just has to accept she’s a lazy student.
Over time, this approach turned parenting into a status-symbol, in which baby-boomer parents were convinced that through micro-managing their kids, they were going to be the best freakin’ parents the world had EVER SEEN. Not only that, they were also going to let EVERBODY know.
Like getting little Georgy the newest goddamn iPhone every Christmas, get him all the coolest toys and let everybody know how he will attend all summer schools and apply to the best colleges!
Everything was done, at all costs, to make the kids happy. Those who lost the cross-country race were given participation medals. Others got into honors classes because the teachers didn’t want to deal with the parents and so on…
Great. Now what Max?
How To Deal with Entitlement…
I’m not going to lie. I’m the best example of the above. And yes, for a long time, I subconsciously thought I was entitled.
Over the years, I’ve developed a few, but effective ways, that allowed me to develop a humble, grounded, altruistic attitude towards the people whom I meet in my everyday life.
#1 Stop f***** complaining and take some responsibility
In case you decided to skip to this part because you thought the part before is unnecessary, I strongly advise you to start reading from the beginning of this article, before you proceed…
Entitled people love to blame others for their flaws. Whether that is their son Georgy becoming aggressive from the apparent ‘negative effects of video games’, or the fact that it’s the schools fault that little Amy’s launch money is taken from her by the school bully.
The reality is that 99% of all problems you have are your fault. Period.
Just like you and I agree that it’s not the computer companies that make Georgy aggressive or contribute to childhood obesity, but simply that parents are failing to use enough of their time to make sure little Georgy does not sit in front of the computer all day, but instead attends sports classes or hangs out with his friends.
Take responsibility for your life and stop f****** blaming others for your misery.
Okay… no more talking about little Georgy… Promise.
#2 Realize that life is not a competition
There is nothing wrong with being highly ambitious and motivated to achieve something significant in your life. That’s great!
But please realize that it really doesn’t matter what grades your mates at college get or what reputable, respected school your best friend got into.
Yes! It may be interesting to know your peer’s grades, and it’s cool to see what fancy holiday your Instagram friends are on, but please remember that anything other people do or say has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU AT ALL!
Instead, imagine yourself making small incremental improvements day by day, where every day, you become a little better than yesterday.
The only person you should compare yourself to, is the person you were yesterday. No one else.
#3 Work on your self-awareness
I should have put this tip at the top of the list… Self-awareness is the key to even realizing when you are being a narcissistic, entitled dumbfuck.
Through daily exercises like mindfulness meditation, I’ve become much more aware of my thoughts and have even gained some power over controlling them in situations where I feel like I’m pulled into engaging in acts of immediate gratification.
Mindfulness meditation involves focusing on a single thing for as little as 10 minutes (you may wish to do more). Things like your breathing and being present in the moment.
Journaling is another good one. This can be done daily, or even as little as once a week (I prefer doing it once a week).
Read this and scroll to page 33.
#4 Get rid of loser friends and befriend the right people
Well, who are the right people? And where do you I find them?
A very general thought pattern, an entitled millennial like you MAY have, is that you may be ‘diseased’ with an illusionary superiority. Simply said, you genuinely believe you’re smarter than everyone else. Well, not only smarter. But better, more special, and more important.
Your goal is to move away from this sort of thinking, and the only way you’re going to do this is to look for people who are… well… just not entitled. Yes, in a world, where 90% of people function that way, this is easier said than done.
The key is to make the conscious decision that you want to move away from this way of thinking and bring your standards to a completely new level. Over time, you will begin to attract the people whom you need.
Remember the old saying,
“You are the average of the five people you surround yourself with.” – Jim Rohn
Many seem to condemn this little saying… I personally belief, there are no truer words out there. Just decide for yourself. 🙂
The point is that, that having a reference of someone who is NOT entitled, is the fastest way you will excel forward.
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What is your opinion? Do you believe its our parents fault? Have you observed yourself to be entitled? Talk to me in the comments below! 🙂